3 Ways To Help You Fight Anger

Here are three ways to help answer the question, “Why are you so angry?”

At some time and in some way, that ignored or buried emotion will express itself—physically, psychologically, or spiritually.” By addressing our anger as it comes, we will be able to stop this strong emotion from building up.

1. Face it. Don’t avoid the red warning light out of fear. The most important thing is to first face the fact that we all struggle with anger. As humans, we naturally react emotionally to distressing situations.

2. Find it. Next, after facing it, we must find the root of the anger that is lodged deep within us. Common roots of anger include fear, pain and frustration. For example, some people become angry as a fearful reaction to uncertainty, to fear of losing a job or to fear of failure. Others become angry when they are hurt in relationships or are caused pain by close friends. When it comes to me, the root of my anger is often found in all the little frustrations I’ve let build up within me.

3. Figure it out. Once we’ve found the root of our anger, we will be able to figure out how to deal with it in a healthier way.

Deal with fear. Sometimes the best way to face our fears is to write them out. By taking the time to examine what you’re deeply afraid of on a piece of paper, you will be able to rationalize your thoughts. In the future, this may help keep fears from building up into anger.

Deal with pain. If you’re trapped and experiencing pain, go talk to the person who caused you pain right now. Whether the hurt is a result of a misunderstanding or an intentional attack, you won’t be able to move forward until you discuss your pain with the person who hurt you. Only when confession and forgiveness are present will you be able to let go of your anger.

Deal with frustration. While we can’t always choose what happens to us, we can choose how to respond. So in response to frustrating moments, choose to dwell on the positive. Also, frustration is sometimes the result of unmet expectations. Make sure your expectations are realistic, and show grace if they are not fulfilled.